Tuesday, September 07, 2004

Whew! What a weekend!

I drove to Alexandria, LA, on Friday to pick up T. for the weekend. He had been confined to the school clinic for a few days, so he was really happy to see me and to come home -- so happy that he only made me stop twice for French fries. Friday night, I removed the water-play area from the backyard due to T.'s boils, which I didn't want to become infected. A. was extremely displeased to see no hose, pool, or tarp out back on Saturday morning, so he threw a major tantrum. He threw a few more tantrums on Saturday to get my attention away from T. However, A. loved having T. home for the weekend, for the first time since T. went off to boarding school. They even played together on the teeter-totter at the park. A. didn't mind at all when T. got a little rough on his end, making it look as if he was trying to launch his little brother into orbit. My kids are tougher than other kids, what can I say? We went to the park a few times, to the McD's playland, to Target, and to the railyard together on Saturday and Sunday. T. dragged me out of bed at 2:00 a.m. yesterday, and A. soon followed. The three of us sat up eating Froot Loops and watching Thomas the Tank Engine; horsing around; and playing on the computer. Finally, we drove T. back to Alexandria, returned home, and fell into bed.

I was touched by a couple of the other boys in T.'s dorm yesterday. One of them, who is tiny for his age, insisted that I pick him up, then he wrapped himself around me like an anaconda. A second, older boy saw that and he came over for a hug too. The children at that school get plenty of affection and hugs from the trainers, teachers, and nuns, but most of those people are women. I had to wonder if those two boys have any adult men in their lives. OTOH, many of the boys in T.'s dorm are naturally affectionate and hug anybody who comes along.

4 comments:

none said...

Just a theory:

A man is more apt to have a firm touch, give strong bear hugs and offer deep pressure massage.

Exactly the kind of skin contact that many autistics prefer, compared to the feathery, weak touch of most women.

But maybe, it´s like you wrote and they are like this with everybody...

Glad the weekend went well. Same here, son only needs a limited amount of sleep, so I try to go to bed when he goes to bed.

Phoebe said...

Exhausting!
It's been a long time since a small child wrapped him/herself around me. I miss that.

Ann said...

Do your boys have ANY concept of time?

Also, Froot Loops at 2:00 a.m.? Are you mad, man?

Randy said...

Hey, I didn't eat Froot Loops. I ate Crunch Berries instead! Come to think of it, that's what I ate this morning.